What is asexuality?
What is asexuality? Asexuality is arguably the least known 2SLGBTQ+ identity. Whenever I come out, I’m generally met with a myriad of confusion and questions.
It Gets Better CanadaIt Gets Better CanadaKendall Gender is the drag persona of Canadian-born Kenneth Wyse, who was the runner up for the 2nd season of Canada’s Drag Race. They grew up in Richmond, BC, and have been in the drag spotlight since 2014. Through their time in drag, they have advocated for gender and sexual fluidity, as their drag persona ‘Kendall Gender’ which cleverly combines their obsession with pop culture and the message that gender is a construct.
Kendall’s partner, Patch Donaghy, is a trans multidisciplinary maker in Vancouver, BC, and the two have been dating for multiple years now. Their relationship became public with the Drag Race fandom during an episode of season 2 of Canada’s Drag Race, when the contestants’ partners were featured in a heartfelt video message segment. When Patch was featured as Kendall’s partner, many watchers were confused since Kendall has previously stated that they identified as a gay male (they both assured us that the outpouring of support greatly outweighed the ‘criticism’).
In their discussion with It Gets Better Canada, the two offer a glimpse into the nature of their relationship and the impact of having a spotlight shined on them. Despite the claims from certain fans that it is strange that a gay man is dating a trans woman, neither of them have thought of their relationship as being ‘unusual’. Instead, they’ve embraced the uniqueness of their love with pride and have given other transgender relationships a platform to connect with.
The International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia, and Biphobia (IDAHOBIT) serves to honour and celebrate inclusivity within the community and recognizes the validity of different gender and sexual identities.
Trans Identities – The concept of “trans identities” refers to the way trans people express themselves through an identity that is different from the sex they were assigned at birth. For trans people, coming to terms with their identity symbolizes acceptance and authenticity to be the person they’ve always wanted to be.
Transitioning – Throughout Kendall and Patch’s relationship, Kendall has shown immense support during Patch’s transition. Whilst many trans people may decide to transition physically, we must understand that it is not a definite choice or aspect relating to trans identity: rather, it is a personal choice that reflects a person’s individual trans journey.
Sexual Fluidity – Sexual fluidity has many tie-ins to gender fluidity, as we use genders binaries to define sexuality. As such, Kendall’s message that ‘gender is a construct’ plays into this notion of sexual fluidity. We are not defined by our sexuality, and these personal labels can easily be modified as time changes.
Public Spotlight – Kendall and Patch repeatedly mention how the spotlight affected their relationship. Most notably, the confusion from fans on the nature of their relationship.
For more discussions and stories about trans and gender identity within queer discussion, you can check out:
It Gets Better Canada “Gender Sandcastles: Conceptualizing Nonbinary and Trans Identities” (https://itgetsbettercanada.org/2022/03/31/gender-sandcastles/) –
The Canadian Centre for Gender + Sexual Diversity: How to Be A Trans Ally (https://ccgsd-ccdgs.org/how-to-be-a-trans-ally/)
Egale: Preparing Students for the Transition of a Trans or Gender Diverse Peer (https//egale.ca/awareness/preparing-students/)
The Trevor Project: Understanding Gender Identity (https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/article/understanding-gender-identities/) –
GLAAD Transgender Media Guide
(https://www.glaad.org/reference/transgender) –
GLAAD Transgender Terminology
(https://www.glaad.org/reference/trans-terms) –
HRC Transgender Resource Page (https://www.hrc.org/resources/transgender) –
If Kendall and Patch’s message of love and support inspired you, make sure to share this video to your friends and family. Uplift others by sharing this message of inclusive love and living authentically!
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This project was made possible with the support from the It Gets Better Project, a non-profit organization working to uplift, empower and connect LGBTQ+ youth around the globe.
Video credits
Featuring:
Kenneth Wyse/ Kendall Gender
Patch Donaghy
Directed and Edited by:
Bruna Arbex
Cinematography by:
Ronan Bryson
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